October 27, 2011, 6:00 am

Do The Best Discussions Happen in Public?

by: MD    Category: Alternative Income
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Do the best discussions really happen in public? Are you missing out on anything by not going on Twitter or joining forums? Lately I’ve been thinking about the idea of where you can find the best chats taking place and the best opportunities for shooting the breeze with remarkable people.

Are the best discussions really on Twitter?

I don’t think so.

The best discussions happen in private when you ask highly tactical questions. The most valuable discussions go on when you get answers to your specific problems. The most valuable conversations occur when that light bulb goes off in your head and you think of some remarkable new idea. This doesn’t happen when you’re killing time on Twitter and you need to filter out all of the noise.

Now don’t get me wrong because I’m not saying not to read blog posts or to stay off Twitter. There’s lots of free information out there all around you. I just want you to think outside of the box and to get in on the private discussions.

How can you get in on this enlightening discussions? How can you be apart of unique discussions?

Attend conferences.

You can guess where I got this idea from. At FINCON11 in Chicago I engaged in some of the best discussions ever. Some of them were over dinner. Others were over drinks. Some happened just by hanging out in the lobby all day. Attending relevant conferences is the best way to help others and to learn the cool people that you’re bound to meet.

If you’re not attending conferences in your field, what’s your excuse? None. There’s absolutely no excuse for not attending conferences. You need to get your name out there, meet others, and keep your ears open. There’s only so much information you can pick up by sitting in your living room all of the time.

Go out for drinks.

Why’s there such a negative stigma surrounding going out to bars and getting wasted? I’ve had some amazing chats with successful entrepreneurs and business people over rounds of pitchers and plenty of laughs. We are all different people after a few drinks. We loosen up and drop our guards a bit. This is usually the best time to see how someone REALLY feels about something. I’ve had some amazing conversations with successful people that I look up to over drinks. This also gives you a chance to improve on your social skills.

Take successful people out for lunch.

Every single human being goes for lunch. If you don’t eat lunch then how do you have energy? Who doesn’t enjoy a free lunch?

The best couple of dollars that you could ever spend is on taking someone successful to lunch. Shoot over an email or get in touch through a mutual friend with someone that you want to meet. Offer them lunch and make it easy for them to show up (work around their schedule). Get out there and enjoy the lunch time chat. What’s holding you back?

Offer your help through email.

Everyone has an email address. Why not reach out to someone that you find interesting through email?

Due to the likelihood that most of us are totally busy these days I recommend that you take the time to leave comments on that person’s blog first. Then once you get a few conversations going you should try to offer your help in some way. This is likely the best way to get a response from a busy person… or you can spam their inbox with lame messages asking for links (am I the only one that gets so many of those?).

Get someone you respect on the phone.

This has surprisingly worked well for me. For some reason some of the top bloggers in the personal finance field were willing to get on the phone with me and actually share some amazing insights. I’m so grateful for this and I learned so much more from these private discussions than I ever could from reading blog posts. This might not always work for you but it doesn’t hurt to ask.

What are you waiting for? Are getting in on the best discussions going on around you?

Do you think that the best discussions happen in public? Where do you find the best engagement with others?


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by: The Financial Blogger | October 27th, 2011 (9:11 am)

You just nailed it MD!

My best discussion with my partner happened around a pitcher 😉

I’ve gone through some AWESOME conversation during the FINCON11… was definitely one of the best investment in our company ever!

I think the best discussion happens when there are not many people around. 4 people is the maximum to get “optimal” conversaion. Over that amount of people, you get more noise.

I wish I could spend a lunch on a weekly basis with inspiring people!

I think they call this networking or maintaining a network. I think it is the most important thing to do.

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