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The Power of Becoming Aggressive and No Longer Waiting Around

Do you think it’s better to keep on going or to switch gears immediately when things aren’t going well? Do you persevere during the difficult times or give up?

I had a debate with a good friend recently. He’s smart and works hard. His only problem is that he doesn’t take any bold moves. He doesn’t see the point in doing anything that deviates from the norm or upsets anyone in the slightest. I think that’s insane because life’s too short to be bored every single day. I believe in being aggressive to get what you want out of life. Too many people are quick to be a glad hander or super-polite. While it’s politically correct to be polite, sometimes you have to be aggressive to get ahead.

Working at a job hoping that you get noticed or waiting months to ask that girl down the hall out, will not get you anywhere. You have to be aggressive.

Should you just keep on going?

No. We all feel that something will just happen if we keep on surviving and hanging on.

This works out sometimes. Sometimes life throws us a bone, things fall into place, and our problems go away.

What should you do instead of just going on and on? What should you do instead of waiting around?

Do something bold.

“You want to be afraid, really afraid, take a look at what your life will look like not if you try and fail, but if you keep on keeping on for decades. That’s the real nightmare scenario for most people.” — Jonathan Fields

Nothing happens when you’re waiting around. You have to be aggressive. You have to take. You can’t ask or wait around.

I don’t want to get into details, but I didn’t start meeting more women until I got aggressive. I always thought that if a girl likes me would come up to me and tell me. That’s not the case. That almost never happens. I got more aggressive and have dated women that I would’ve never had a shot with if  I was polite or waited for them to notice me.

Those around you will respect you for being more bold. From potential partners to the friends that you interact with on a daily basis.

This same logic applies to your job and other goals that you have. Waiting around won’t bring you closer to your goals. It’ll just keep you in the same position for a LONG time.

What’s the worst that can happen? You get rejected. As long as you don’t do anything illegal you won’t get into trouble.


“The time to look for a new job is when you don’t need one. The time to switch jobs is before it feels comfortable. Go. Switch. Challenge yourself; get yourself a raise and a promotion.” — Seth Godin

Giving up is often mocked in our society.

You should never quit. You should just keep on going on until something magical happens.

Screw that. If something isn’t working or you’re not getting the results that you so badly want, the best thing you could possibly do is quit. When you say yes to something, you’re say no to something else. Stop saying no to the potential great things that could happen to you!

Are there only two options here? Do something bold or quit? YES. There’s no sense in waiting around. Right now is the best time to start building wealth [1].

Do you want to be that dude that waits around for his girlfriend to come back? Do you want to be the friend that chases business ideas for a decade until he realizes that he’s in his 40s? Do you want to be stuck at a job you hate? Obviously not! We all want the best. The only difference is that not all of us are willing to become more aggressive to get after our goals.

I urge you to stop just keeping on keeping on. It’s not worth it! It’s so much more powerful to become aggressive and stop waiting around. Sure, it’ll take a while to get used to. It doesn’t mean that it’s impossible.

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#1 Comment By Kevin On November 29, 2012 @ 8:38 am

Great post, md! For various reasons I was quite shy, and while I’ve always been introverted I’ve learned to take various actions to keep the shyness from holding me back too much. I agree both with a little more aggression and I also agree with learning where to optimize your time. Sometimes yes, you should quit so you can move on to better things.

Maybe aggression isn’t the right word though. Would assertive be better? I think bold is good. After all, I find a lot of benefits to the golden rule and mutual reciprocation, and usually people think of “aggressive” people as ego driven, which some are. Those may hurt themselves in the end as their arrogance turns people away.

#2 Comment By MD On November 29, 2012 @ 11:39 am

Good point Kevin! Maybe aggressive isn’t the right word. You can call it what you want, as long as you get the general theme. Are you more bold now?

#3 Comment By Kathleen @ Frugal Portland On November 29, 2012 @ 12:59 pm

I think you should go into details — I’d read your dating tips!

#4 Comment By krantcents On November 29, 2012 @ 4:24 pm

I think it is up to every individual to make the most of their lives. That may mean financially, personally and socially. Many are satidfied with less and that is okay.

#5 Comment By Financial Samurai On November 30, 2012 @ 10:33 am

Things definitely don’t come to us. The good things are there for people who want to take them!

#6 Comment By Kelly@Financial-Lessons On November 30, 2012 @ 10:35 am

Being “comfortable” in life is a huge reason why people stay stuck in one place when they could be growing or getting ahead. Not only in relationships, but in your career its very true that you should do all you can to be completely happy rather than settling for content. Great post about ambition.

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