February 7, 2013, 6:00 am

Why You Need to Stop Listening to Your Parents

by: MD    Category: Alternative Income
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Until you see any positive results from a business idea or any plan, you’re not on the right path. Positive results are easy to quantify with a few simple questions:

  • Have you lost any weight since starting your new training program?
  • Have you made any money from that new business idea?

My friends hate it when I tell them this. Why? Because their girlfriend or dad told them that they had an excellent business plan.

Do you listen to your parents, family, girlfriend, boyfriend, and buddies?

If you answered yes, then this is a must-read article for you. I have bad news for you. The news is that you need to stop listening to your parents!

Why should you stop listening to your parents and everyone else close to you?

Your parents will always tell you what you want to hear. Your friends won’t want to make you feel bad so they’ll just go along with whatever you say. Your girlfriend will support you and encourage you. She won’t tell you that your idea sucks. This is especially true when you’re VERY passionate about what you want to do. Trust me, I’ve been there before myself. I get so passionate about a topic that I only want to hear positive thoughts.

It’s not their fault. They’re all conditioned to be supportive and to be by your side with everything that you do. Your family doesn’t want to upset you by telling you that your plan to groom iguanas isn’t going to work. While some of us donate money, others feel the need to provide charity to their friends with whacky ideas.

So what can you do about this? What should you do instead of listening to your parents and friends?

Get as much feedback as humanly possible at the beginning of a project.

It makes no sense to get feedback or tips when you’re about to launch or go all the way with your execution. At this stage you should just be focused on launching, not on feedback. This is why you need to get as much feedback as possible at the very beginning of a new project. This is where most people won’t be afraid of being brutally honest with you because they’ll know that you’re still at the draft stage.

Make INSANE notes.

Get some blank paper and stickies. Make as many notes as possible. Keep track of every idea. No matter how ridiculous the idea is, jot it down. You’ll be glad you did. You never know when the pieces are all going to come together and make sense. I do my best to get all of my notes together at the beginning of a new plan.

This applies to working out, eating, starting a business, or getting out of debt. You need to do your research at start before you even commit to anything. Once you commit, it’s too late. Execution becomes the new goal.

Ask people that aren’t afraid to be candid.

I try to be as honest as possible. We all have a buddy that’s always candid. Ask that person for feedback. Don’t ask your supportive friends that are going to tell you what you want to hear. That won’t help accomplish anything. You need to reach out to straight shooters and those that will tell you how it is, regardless if you like it or not.

Don’t get offended by criticism.

Just because someone doesn’t like something that you do, this doesn’t make them a “hater.” Not everyone will love all of your ideas. Not everyone will agree with everything that you do or say. You’re not the best. You’re not untouchable. People will dislike your ideas and provide criticism. Don’t let this get to you.

How does that saying go? Never let success get to your head just like you should never let failure get to your heart. Try to appreciate it when someone takes the time to tell you what you could improve. Don’t bash them or call them a hater.

 Have you ever had a difficult time with trying to give a friend harsh criticism? How did you go about it?

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Comments

My friends know me pretty well after nearly 40 years. They know I will be candid probably because I grew up in New York and we tend to be straight forward about things. There many times I will hold back purely because my opinion will not doing anything anyway.

I will usually listen to anyone about anything, but I will always make my own decisions. Of course, I always talk about any major decision with my wife and she is always supportive.

There are people in my life I go to when I want a certain answer and I know they’ll give it to me, and there are people I go to when I want the honest truth. Obviously when it comes to some areas its less important to get sound advice than others, but if you’re investing time and money in a business venture its good to get honest opinions as well as perspectives from outside sources and parties who have no personal connection to you- these people will give you blunt feedback. Good advice!

Great post! I always try to get my parents and friends’ point of view on things. But in the end, it is always my decision that will count.

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