August 25, 2011, 6:00 am

It’s Okay to Ask For Help

by: MD    Category: Other Financial Articles
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Asking For Help

“There are only two kinds of people who are really fascinating – people who know absolutely everything, and people who know absolutely nothing. ” – Oscar Wilde.

Two weeks ago I wrote about how we all need a kick in the butt sometimes. The thing is that it’s easy to fall behind and to justify our poor habits to friends in hopes that they’ll agree with us. Well, sometimes a wake up call is needed. Now that we had our wake up call, this week we can get into some real tactics.

What if you want to make some changes, but just aren’t sure what to do next? Simple. You need to ask for help. You need to reach out and find others that are willing to help you improve your current situation.

I found that lots of young people are simply afraid to ask for help. Today we can move away from this fear and reach out for help. I’m here to let you know that it’s okay to ask for help.

I wanted to start off with some general tips on asking for help…

Swallow your pride.

We’re often too proud to ask for help. If you want to get anywhere in life, you’re going to have to swallow your pride once in a while and accept the fact that you don’t know everything. You’re likely excellent in one area of life and horrible in another. That’s perfectly normal. You need to swallow your pride and learn to accept tips from others in the areas that you suck at.

Be open minded.

Maybe it’s your attitude that has prevented you from moving forward. Many times our attitude holds us back. It can be self-limiting beliefs or the inability to learn from others. When you open your mind you’ll learn of many new things.

Don’t criticize the person.

A friend once asked me for advice on how to plan a trip. In the middle of the discussion he started to call me out on some things and to criticize my strategy. I got  frustrated at first and then I realized that it wasn’t worth my energy to argue with someone that clearly didn’t want to be helped. It’s important that you don’t judge anyone that helps you.

Now that we went over some general tips, let’s get into the actual process of getting help. What are a few ways that you can ask for help if you feel that you’re stuck on something?

Offer your assistance first.

For someone to truly care about helping you it helps that you show that you’re not a selfish person. We can always help others out in one way or another. It doesn’t have to be with expertise. It could be with time or with feedback. By proving that you’re a helpful person yourself, it will build a stronger rapport.

Ask for feedback on your progress.

People are extremely busy. Instead of asking pointless questions, it can benefit you both much more by asking for feedback on how you’re doing something.

Maybe you just need to tweak something or you’re doing the wrong things. Getting feedback on your progress will allow the person helping you to share what you’re doing the right way and what can be improved on– and believe me we all have something that needs improving.

Ask someone to be a mentor.

A mentor can help you get much further than you ever could on your own. A mentor is something that’s done something that you want to do. This is the person that you go to for advice, feedback, help, and friendship. If you can find yourself a mentor in your field, I’ve been told that you can get much further than those that try to go at it alone.

At the end of the day you can never go wrong by looking for help. We need to understand that there’s nothing wrong with reaching out. You’ll actually be surprised by how many people want to help you out.

Have you helped anyone out lately? Have you reached out for help?

(photo credit: bkabak)

 

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Comments

I’m looking for a mentor at my full time work now. I need quite a lot of help with leadership and hopefully I can learn something. It’s difficult for me to ask for help since I like doing things my way, but I think you’re right. I’ll learn something new.

Asking for help is one of the things I”ve been working on over the past couple of years. It’s always been very hard for me for some reason, but it’s getting easier.

I always ask for help. I don’t know why it’s so hard for some people. I don’t know if it’s that stereotype of that man who refuses to ask for directions even when he knows he’s lost.

I need help. My mortgage is four months late and I am going to be the cause of my family loosing their home because I am sick and because of my surgery to get my thyroid taken out and all my medical bills, I am the cause of my family fixing to become homeless. Please help me. Someone please help. I will give out my mortgage information. I will give out my email. I just really need help. I’m scared. My husband is working over 160 hours in two weeks and we cannot get caught up. We just need help getting caught up. I strongly believe in passing around kindness. and it will get passed around.